Just the other day I saw a Facebook post from someone celebrating their deceased loved one’s birthday. One statement that stood out to me was that they said they have not grieved or mourned their loved one’s death. The judgmental person in me said in my head, uhm yes you have. This person I know personally has been in multiple drunk stupors, drug binges, and Facebook crash outs over the years since the time of the death. Although my first thoughts were based on pure judgment, I quickly started to feel bad. Everyone’s grieving and mourning is different. It does not look the same on everyone. I am quite sure they were probably taught to believe that grief looks like sadness, isolation, and dark clouds. From my experience, it is a dark cloud, but the person under that cloud may be expressing it a different way. When I lost my brother at 13, I acted out in many different ways, not realizing I was grieving and mourning. Now my grieving and mourning look different. I don’t have the sp...